Not just a mum…

This post was written for the #SEND30daychallenge, day 9: ‘Not just a mum.’ I’m one of the (few) parents who actually don’t mind being called ‘mum’ by professionals. Yes, I do have a name, but in the context of Benjamin’s health, education or care I see being called ‘mum’ as an affirmation of status. I … Continue reading Not just a mum…

How much is too much?

So far this week Benjamin has had visits from his physio, the community nurse to change his gastrostomy button, the disability social worker, and the visiting teacher for the visually impaired. I've taken him to the Sick Kids for a respiratory consultation, the GP for a flu vaccination, into Edinburgh for an early years sensory … Continue reading How much is too much?

It will get easier

“It will get easier,” they said. Once he gets past the ‘two year old functioning as a new-born’ phase and into the ‘five year old functioning as a one year old’ phase it will be more rewarding, less thankless, more fun. Of course, there’s no guarantee he ever will move on from his present stage … Continue reading It will get easier

A natural mother

I’ve never seen myself as a natural mother. I’m impatient, selfish, particular, ambitious. While I’m not exactly sure what a ‘natural mother’ should be, I’m pretty certain it’s none of those things. Yet for nearly four years I have been, without a break, either pregnant or breastfeeding. Both came (surprisingly) easily, naturally, without much effort, … Continue reading A natural mother