As my friends on Facebook will know, we reached a major milestone this week. And as other special needs parents will appreciate, what is a milestone for us is something that many neurotypical children do so automatically that it’s barely worth noticing. He started playing. At least, that’s what I’m going to call it. He made repeated (if small, slow) movements with his hands to (successfully!) move an item (one of those silver space blankets) in a way that interested him. Now that’s progress!
And progress not just for him but for all of us. It’s not easy to play with someone who doesn’t respond, who isn’t able to tell you what he likes and what he doesn’t, what he wants to rattle and what he wants to look at. It’s so easy to get disheartened, to plonk him in a corner with something shiny, not thinking he’ll even look at it let alone engage with it, and carry on with making the dinner. So I’m really hoping we’ve hit a kind of positive feedback loop here: I give him a toy, he plays with it, I play with him more. Result! We’re a long way from a game of chess but, at our own pace, we’re getting there.